Building Positive Relationships with Others . . .
Often our greatest challenge is a simple relationship that either got off to a bad start or evolved into one that leaves more questions than answers every time there is an attempt at communication. It's as though there is an invisible button that gets pushed and suddenly the discussion or the interaction is spinning out of control. It's uncomfortable and both people wonder how a reasonably simple and logical interchange could go so far awry. It happens all the time - between friends, with a co-worker, with neighbors, and, most upsetting, within the family unit where everyone should feel secure and accepted. Differences, managed smartly, can help us grow and develop. Not managed, the relationship can worsen or completely fail.
We can provide the support and the tools to get you started or to expand your knowledge:
- Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI/MMTIC): We are certified in this widely accepted and globally used personality preference questionnaire based on Carl Jung's theories of personality type. On-line access makes this a versatile and informative tool for an individual, a couple, a family, a small group or a larger team. We work with adults (MBTI) and children, ages 8 and above (MMTIC). This is our specialty offering in working with individuals, groups, and families who have found it to be surprisingly accurate. We encourage you to contact us to explore this proven instrument further. To learn more about the MBTI instrument, click here.
- 360-Feedback Instruments: These instruments have been around for some time and we have streamlined the process so that it is less cumbersome to the participants while also providing insightful and useful feedback to the client to lay the foundation for improvements.
- Individual Development Planning Process: A formal document can be created as an output of any or all of the options described, covering strengths and development areas. This is a personal plan developed by you and includes both improvement goals and measures for success.
- Personal Assessment Tools: We offer a variety of approaches to help you learn about yourself. These range from simplistic, manual (and fun) instruments to more complex, but insightful, tools to help raise your awareness.
- Personal Coaching and Guidance: A strength of ours and a very effective approach to self-understanding, highlighted by identifying the behaviors that are getting in your way and how to effectively begin to change them.
- Relationship or Group Facilitation: Sometimes an external person can help to open up a relationship in a way that the individuals find very difficult. By facilitating - listening, reinforcing, and getting the issues out in a non-threatening and unbiased environment - a new-found relationship can emerge based on a much better understanding.
- Behavioral Insight Techniques: A method for exploring current behaviors and the normal reactions to them, identifying the preferred behaviors, and finding ways to modify and reinforce a change through coaching and facilitation.
A guide to help with a difficult relationship . . .
- Consciously register your weaknesses.
- Open your mind; don't judge prematurely.
- Listen carefully. Try to empathize.
- Ask questions for clarification.
- State your case clearly and succinctly - don't blame and don't assume.
- Keep emotions under control.
- Search for a win-win solution.
- Find a way to move forward in a responsible way.
1. Learn more about you - how you connect and interact with those around you.
2. Identify the behaviors that work for you and those that are less successful.
3. Find out how others perceive you; determine what you are willing to change.
4. Observe and learn from those who manage relationships successfully.
5. Realistically identify the behaviors that you would like to change.
6. Work on new approaches and reflect on what worked and what didn't.
7. Acknowledge that you are in control of your relationships with others.
Essential for Success: Understand Yourself to Better Understand Others!